Self-compassion. Turns out it can save and support us
through times of difficulty.
And the run-of-the-mill ordinary blips of the day.
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When life throws its curve balls, we easily get stuck in over-thinking and self-criticism. It’s just the way the brain's wired.
We can reverse the hold of the ancient lizard brain by
deliberately treating our self with kindness.
Our bravado culture is suspicious of self-compassion.
Who ever felt better from self-criticism, overwork, aggression, shame or feeling unworthy?
The stoic approach?
No one wins.
In fact the opposite is true.
Clinical research by Dr Kristin Neff (University of Texas at Austin) into PTSD in returned veterans found:
The factor determining whether the veterans would slide into PTSD was not the amount of combat they’d seen.
It was their level of self-compassion.
Whether they could be kindness toward themselves. Instead of self-flagellating or feeling like a failure.
A study of 100 couples, trained in self-kindness, showed they have the edge on un-trained bods. They are:
It seems when we’re wrapped up in our own shortcomings, failures, mistakes and misdemeanours- ie, not self-compassionate- we have less to give to others.
And more blame to dole out.
Listen to the FAQ:
HOW DO I KNOW WHEN I NEED SELF-KINDNESS?
WHAT'S THE HARDEST THING ABOUT SELF KINDNESS?
The opposite proves to be true.
Self-kindness has us strong and resilient. It expands our horizons. We’re better able to step outside our head and see a situation clearly. We're no longer absorbed by our thoughts or captive to harmful reactions.
What's not to love!!!
Self-kindness: it's the strength you need.
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